For a while now, Falz has been a socially conscious rapper who has not been shy about using
his music to highlight the ills of the Nigerian society.
He particularly has a penchant for slut-shaming “runz girls” i.e ladies who engage in transactional sex. Why does he do this?
Why do Nigerian men constantly slut-shame women any chance they get ?
First, you have to consider the misogynistic society that men were brought into. From an early age, boys are made to see sex as a dirty act when women do it and something worth bragging about when men do it. If a man has sex with multiple women, he’s regarded as a big boy. If a woman has sex with multiple women, she’s regarded as a whore/slut/hoe. This has been the stereotype for ages.
Have you ever asked yourself why men engage in revenge porn ?
Because slut-shaming has been a part of our culture and we still hold the archaic belief that a woman’s body is the temple of her husband or husband-to-be and not her own. That a woman’s vagina is the “dignity of her family” as if anyone asked them to put it there. So exposing her nudes is a way of reducing her worth in front of the world. A punishment of sorts.
Another reason to consider is the foe moral high-horse that Nigerians have and how we have a culture of policing others about their acts/behaviors that don’t affect us in any way but because we don’t like what they are doing or maybe because our religious views (Nigerians are super religious, but not God-fearing) don’t align with the acts of others, we condemn them.
Falz on being accused of slut-shaming.
“I hate transactional sex.” pic.twitter.com/nAH0KAt2Vz
— Joey Akan (@JoeyAkan) January 14, 2019
There’s a video of Falz circulating on the internet where he’s explaining to the audience at the album listening for his new album Moral Instruction (which is a great album by the way. Every Nigerian should listen to it) that he hates “transactional sex” and that he will continue to sing against it whether we like it or not.
In a bid to discuss the claims of him being a hypocrite by people who have always pointed out that he has always focused on women who engage in transactional sex and not the men who patronize it, he stated that his 2016 hit song “Regards to your mumsi” which he released with Ajebutter22 and Fresh L made mockery of the men who patronized “runz girls”.
At the center of this discussion is freedom, women’s freedom.
Falz just like the average Nigerian man has the privilege of telling women what they should and shouldn’t do with their bodies because the society he was born into, is one that has policed every part of a woman’s existence and sees nothing wrong with it. Falz is the most difficult type of misogynist to deal with. The misogynist that doesn’t know that he is a misogynist. He is proudly riding his moral high horse and wants women to stop engaging in transactional sex just because he doesn’t like it. He even made mention of feminists clamoring against the sexual objectification of women and how they still objectify themselves through transactional sex.
This line of reasoning is heavily flawed. Women and young girls get sexually objectified every day for no reason. The other day, a bunch of shameless men on a TV show were trying to blame pedophilia on the parents of young girls who dress their young girls “indecently”.
One of them said that he sees little girls wearing “bum shorts”. That right sexual objectification. If you see a girl wearing shorts and your brain translates a piece of clothing to “bum shorts”, there is a problem. If you’re sexually aroused and lose all form of self-restraint by what young girls wear there is a problem. If you are aroused by children, oh well, you are a problem.
Comparing transactional sex and sexual objectification is also a problem. Sex rendered as a service is a choice that women have. The choice is theirs. Women getting sexually objectified is not a choice they have, it’s something that has been forced upon them by men. A change from the norm is not always easy for people to embrace. A world where women are as sexually liberated as men is hard for a lot of men to embrace but that’s the world we live in now.
Lest we forget, sex work exists because there is a demand for it and who are the major patronizers of sex workers? Men. It’s quite unfortunate that his comments about transactional sex will be a trending topic that will overshadow the brilliant body of work that his new album is.
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#MoralInstructionTheAlbum out January 15, 2019. ——————— Artwork by legendary artist Lemi Ghariokwu, @lemighariokwu , most notable for his works on Fela’s records. ————— Grateful to @ugomaadegoke for the linking me up with Mr Lemi. ————— I’m so excited about the art we have created together on this project. More importantly because I had the chance to work with someone equally passionate about this theme! #StayTuned #MoralInstructionTheAlbum #January15
But the conversations around his mindset (and the mindset of most Nigerians) towards transactional sex and the sexual liberation of women are necessary.
Slowly but surely, we will get to that point where we don’t judge women for what they choose to do with their lives or bodies.
Words by: Xcel Joab